Possible Clues:

• If
• Choice word
• He threw (anag.)
• Arouse the woman with this introduction to alternatives
• If wife's taking man to task, primarily that's over that woman
• One alternative is to stimulate the woman
• Word introduces alternative
• - - 'tis nobler in the mind... Shakespeare's 'Hamlet'
• One possibility is to stimulate the lady
• Whichever is the case