Possible Clues:

• By and by around tea tthat's not for me with R
• It's not for me, R like this
• That other teetotaller in a real setting back there
• Not now around T for me, R
• Not drinking when in real trouble following
• not for me,R - but by and by about T
• Former partner?
• Not for me, R, though there could be a plate of it under the piano
• Not the first
• By and by it's about a little team following 9 across